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  • Melania Zilo

Learning to Listen

and listening to learn...

More often than not, we seem to talk twice as much as we listen, and I think it's gotten to a point where sometimes we forget that efficient communication is the key to healthy social relationships. I'm so tired of all my conversations sounding like job interviews, and I feel like we all need to be reminded sometimes to slow down, get in touch with each other's real feelings, and actually listen. Here are some things to keep in mind next time you find yourself in the middle of an important conversation.


Give the person your undivided attention.

Even the little things like maintaining eye contact and keeping your phone out of your hands can make all the difference when trying to have a conversation with someone. Someone is taking their time to express themselves to you, so show them some respect.

Ask questions

Instead of being quick to make assumptions, ask questions to help you genuinely understand what someone is saying. Try to come from a place of curiosity, not judgment.

Disagreements are an opportunity for growth

If something someone says doesn't make sense to you, try to approach their perspective in a different light. Let information sink in, think about how you feel, and ask for further elaboration if something still doesn't sit right. Instead of taking the easy route, and making your own assumptions, learn how to feel with other people.

Be open to changing your opinion on something after receiving new information!

Changing your mind about something after being so set in your ways can be extremely awkward and may even put a dent in our ego. Learn to open up and allow yourself to be vulnerable because that's the only way we can grow!

Love always,

Melania Zilo

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