- Melania Zilo
Relationships In Quarantine
Everything you need to know about surviving a long-distance relationship in quarantine brought to you by yours truly, and her super cute boyfriend Alejandro <3.
This time apart sucks, and I'd be lying to say that we nailed this whole long-distance thing. We find ourselves arguing over the silliest things, either texting too much or not enough, and overall in our sad boy hours all the time because let's face it... Life is not the same without your best friend. Since we can't physically be together, Alejandro and I have spent quite some time finding ways to feel connected even in isolation. Today we're getting real with you about what long-distance during quarantine is really like, and thought we would share everything we've been doing not to tank this relationship (jokes).
What has been the hardest part about long distance?
A: The fact that we've gone from being with each other 24/7 to not at all has definitely been a tough shock. Now, it's all about trying to find ways to make up for that lack of being together.
M: This past year, we've developed such a beautiful routine together.. To have that taken away so abruptly has been a tough pill to swallow.
How are you making time for each other?
A: Many more Facetime calls than ever before. We've had so much fun with our impromptu cooking dates (Kraft Mac n Cheese), and last week we even baked banana bread together.
M: We've been doing all sorts of fun things over the phone. I think a Netflix date is in the works as well (if we can ever agree on a movie to watch).
What's something you learned about each other in this time?
A: I'm so impressed with her work ethic during this time, and how she's been so consistent with following her goals.
M: I've always known this, but he has such a creative mind, and he's such a careful listener. Through our conversations, I get to see this other side to him that's just super imaginative and introspective.
How important has communication been?
A: It's been the key element of surviving this time. Communication has always been one of our strengths as a couple, but now we've been able to go deeper. We've been playing this card game called "We're Not Really Strangers" over the phone. Each card has a question aimed to empower meaningful connections through levels of perception, connection, and reflection. We draw one card every night before hanging up. Sometimes it ends in an argument, but for the most part, it's been a good time.
M: I think we do a really good job of communicating our feelings to each other. You should always let the other person know what's going on in your head; that way, you can work through the issue together. It's comforting to know that you don't have to go through anything alone. Aside from that, we always try to be supportive of everything else the other person has going on. It's important to motivate each other to be as productive as possible and encourage each other to keep up with our passions. We also send each other funny pictures throughout the day. It's all about the little things that let the other person know "hey, I'm thinking of you."
Have you developed any quarantine pet peeves?
A: Melania thinks she can multitask at all times, which has proven to not be the case. I just wish that she would focus on one thing at a time.
M: I can't think of one, but I know that Alejandro gets annoyed when I try to do a million things while I'm on the phone with him.
What's the first thing you want to do when this is all over?
A: I can't wait to be able to squeeze her and see that beautiful smile that I love so much. I'm excited to relax on the couch all day and watch our (her) favorite movies.
M: Some of our favorite memories are at the beach, so I can't wait to go back and make some new ones. Also, looking forward to the unlimited amount of hugs (if you thought I was clingy before, just you wait).
If this time has taught us anything, it's to appreciate every moment we have with each other. It makes me sad to think that I ever took a second with him for granted. Some days are harder than others, but when this is all over, I really would like to believe that somehow this time apart brought us closer together. Soon enough, we'll get to dance around in my living room like we used to, and argue over how loud I play my music in the car, and everything will be alright again. Until then, I guess I'll have to settle for phone calls until 2 am and virtual card games :)
Melania & Alejandro