• Melania Zilo

Mad Benefits: Creating a Support System

There is nothing more important than the relationships we carry throughout our life. Creating a support system means having people who you can depend on through thick and thin. It means having individuals in your corner that want to see you succeed and do not judge you or put you down when you're feeling low. It's all about who's there for you and who has your interest at heart. Keep scrolling to learn about the mad benefits of building and maintaining a reliable support system.

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Who should you include in your support system?

Some people consider their support system to be:

  • Parents

  • Siblings

  • Cousins, Aunts, Uncles, etc

  • Neighbors

  • Friends

  • Coaches

  • Teachers

  • Counselors

  • Mentors

Someone who might not belong in your support system:

  • Someone who isn't always reliable

  • Someone who has lied to you in the past

  • Someone who loves the drama

  • Someone who does not have your 10000% interest at heart

Think about the people in your life and make a list of all the supportive people you trust. Ask yourself questions like:

  • "Does this person respect me?"

  • "Does this person make me feel good?"

  • "Does this person want what's best for me?"

Make a note of these people and make an effort to maintain and nurture those relationships.


Don't be afraid to reach out

Asking for help means asking yourself to be vulnerable, which is difficult for many, and that's OK, be patient. It may be easier to share some good news with the people in your life to practice opening up. If something good happens to you, call someone in your support system and share it! There are people out there waiting to celebrate you and to be there for you; you just have to let them. Start getting comfortable with confiding in the people you trust. When you need help, don't be afraid to ask for it.


Be there for others

The key to maintaining a healthy support system is learning that it is a two-way street. If you want to nurture and grow these relationships, it's important to be the most supportive friend to others. This means making time for your loved ones, sending them a text, or giving them a call when it's been a while. Always check in on your people and be there for them when they need someone. What you give is what you get.


Love always,

Melania Zilo

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